The PLEDGE Frequently Asked Questions

The PLEDGE is both an event and a public commitment by men to take responsibility for ending domestic and sexual violence. It is the launch of First Step’s Men’s Initiative and marks the beginning of a broader effort to engage men as leaders, allies, and role models in prevention, accountability, and culture change.

The event brings men together to stand visibly against violence, learn from national and local voices, connect with one another, and commit to ongoing action that strengthens families and communities across Wayne County.

During the PLEDGE event, men will be asked to voluntarily take the PLEDGE during a short PLEDGE ceremony. See "What does it mean to take the PLEDGE" below for more information.

While the event is open to supporters of all genders, the intention is to engage men directly in this work. Non-male allies are welcome to attend alongside a man, helping strengthen conversations, accountability, and shared commitment.

No. The PLEDGE (Part One) and The CONVERSATION (Part Two) are connected but do not require attendance at both. Each event stands on its own, and we welcome community members to attend either or both evenings.

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Taking The PLEDGE is a personal commitment to accountability, learning, and action—not just for one evening, but beyond it.

Men who take The PLEDGE are invited to stay engaged in at least one ongoing way, such as:

• becoming a monthly donor (minimum $5/month),
• volunteering with First Step,
• attending a tour or information session,
• supporting a community project,
• or participating in future learning or leadership opportunities.

Participants may choose one or more of these options. Opportunities will be shared during the event, with some available for sign-up that evening.

Yes, this is a ticketed event. Tickets must be purchased in advance online by 8p, February 10th. Tickets will not be sold at the door.

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This event is intentionally designed to engage men in prevention and accountability.

Individual tickets are reserved for men to reinforce that the responsibility for ending violence does not rest solely on survivors or allies, but on men stepping forward as leaders. Non-male allies are invited to attend through the Ally Pair Admission, which encourages shared participation and connection to the men in their lives.

This approach reflects our values and the purpose of The PLEDGE.

We encourage attendees to invite a friend, partner, family member, or colleague to attend with them. If you have questions or need support navigating ticket options, please contact First Step prior to the event.

Yes. Tickets may be transferred to another guest who meets the ticket requirements (for example, individual tickets are intended for men, and pair tickets must include at least one attendee identifying as male).

Please email Carrie at cbozman@firststep-mi.org in advance so we can update the guest list. First Step will do their best to accommodate any day-of changes.

No. Tickets must be purchased in advance online by 8p, February 10th. Tickets will not be sold at the door.

While the event is open to supporters of all genders, the intention is to engage men directly in this work. Non-male allies are welcome to attend alongside a man, helping strengthen conversations, accountability, and shared commitment.

There is no strict age requirement for The PLEDGE. However, the content and conversations are designed for adults and mature teens. Caregiver discretion is advised, and we generally recommend the event for teens and older.

Yes. Parlay Detroit is accessible. If you have specific accessibility needs or questions, please contact First Step in advance so we can best support your experience.

A full dinner will not be served. The evening will include heavy hors d’oeuvres available throughout the event thanks to our Presenting Sponsors, Parlay Detroit and With Love, Tiffani Montrall Bates.

Yes. A cash bar with alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages will be available, along with a no-cost bourbon tasting experience. Guests should plan accordingly.

The event will include a cigar education and purchasing opportunity hosted by a third-party vendor. This experience is optional and designed to complement the evening’s atmosphere and networking.

The PLEDGE will take place in Downtown Detroit's exclusive speakeasy nestled in the lower level of Parlay Detroit. Clear signage and staff will be available to guide guests upon arrival.

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Yes. Paid parking is available nearby in surrounding garages and lots. We encourage guests to allow extra time for parking and arrival.

Dress is business casual to cocktail casual. We encourage guests to dress comfortably while honoring the significance of the evening.

Yes. Parlay Detroit is accessible. If you have specific accessibility needs or questions, please contact First Step in advance so we can best support your experience.

Proceeds from The PLEDGE directly support First Step’s free and comprehensive services for survivors of domestic and sexual violence in Wayne County.

This includes emergency shelter, a 24-hour helpline, counseling, legal advocacy, transitional housing, prevention education, and community-based support. Your participation helps ensure survivors and families can access safety, healing, and hope.

No. A monthly contribution of $5 or more is strongly encouraged, but not required.

We recognize that meaningful commitment can take many forms. Whether through giving, volunteering, learning, or advocacy, participants are encouraged to choose the pathway(s) that feel most accessible and sustainable for them.

Men who take The PLEDGE will be invited into an ongoing network of male allies and supporters of First Step. Opportunities may include:

• volunteer experiences and service projects,
• educational trainings and learning sessions,
• behind-the-scenes tours and information sessions,
• community advocacy efforts,
• and future PLEDGE gatherings.

Participants will also receive access to a monthly e-newsletter with updates, opportunities, and ways to stay connected to the movement.